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I think mentioning the founder of NVC, Marshall Rosenberg, should be the starting point... thanks for explaining how you understand Marshall Rosenberg's way of being in the world

Returning to this video 3 yrs later having realized I'm trans. I hope testosterone helps, but I will definitely want this vile organ out of my body as soon as I get a chance.

I wanna be a man I hate this life

Her voice is so relaxing and tender ❤

Yo use a 23g?!? I’ve been using a 27g 1inch and it’s perfect. Screw those big harpoons

Yeaaa, it's terrible, but the best we have.

Are you a woman?

What is he doing?

Glute, around and inch below your waistline in the upper/outer quadrant of the glute. I’ve only ever hit a blood vessel there once in 2 decades of using test.

Dont forget to draw when the needle is in so you know your not in a vein. I find the liquid going in really hurts and I have to change over to the other leg so I do two legs 2ml each of Reandron.

Pro tip from an outdoorswoman. If you don't want to pull your pants down, don't use anything flimsy that could accidentally compress between you thighs... If you go with something that has flex (especially the juice box), then you'll have a hard time using it through your fly, and will probably have to pull your pants down.

The nurse told me last week to make sure the bevel on the needle was facing up, as he said in the video. I don’t know why but it was a lot less painful when she injected it that way. She also said to make the stick quickly.

Jesus Christ 23 gauge needle is way overkill. Look into every other day with insulin needle. 23 gauge in the thigh is horrendous advice. Id look towards the steroid forums over listening to these nurses they give the absolute worst advice!

You need to use a filter straw when drawing up out of glass you are going to get glass shards in your body and that is no good

Thigh sucks, the pip can be crazy and takes a few to get use to, even then I've nicked vessal few times and had a squirter and black n blue for week

You are so hot

Bro if i hit testosterone in sciatic nerve in buttock

Thank you for all the efforts and resources that have been put into making this. It's been around a decade I’ve started my lifelong healing journey. Honestly, at this point, I feel like I'm at 8-9 on the spectrum of all types of health. In short, I find my journey to be about undoing bit by bit all the disconnection that the oppressive systems like capitalism caused and reconnecting to my body, my mind, my species, as many types of other species as possible, remembering that I am of the Nature…. A question that kept coming back for a while was “How does one heal while living in a society with such destructive structures that make the hurt ongoing, omnipresent?” And I think it helped when I started implementing some distinction between things I do that help more with prevention of the hurt like deconstructing and dismantling of the oppressive systems mentioned in the comments, from things I need to do to build a tolerance to the hurt and things I need to do to cope with the results of the hurt and of course then trying to find a balance when prioritizing one over the other. And for sure every time I share my journey. I try to make sure I acknowledge that any type of healing globally is a privilege, a luxury that not many can afford /and not just financially/. To add to the point about one way of training the window of tolerance; in case there is a limited access to water, cold air can serve similar purpose.

Amazing sharing. At almost 60, Ive been trying to heal for the last 30years. None of the therapy has helped very much. Buddhist principles did impact me some.... living in the moment, detatchment. Mindfulness. Meditation doesnt help. I havent been able to do much for my own mental health, as my kids needs in that area have far overshadowed mine and Ive been poor for all my life. They trigger me in so many ways, that its difficult to heal. I'll have to wait for them to leave home before I can start to work on myself. Glad you are finding you and have confidence in who you've become or becomming.

Wow! Thanks for sharing your journey. This video is very timely for me. I’ve been considering how to help my mental health and realizing my mental health is awful and has been awful for most of my life. A lot of the things you listed in the video I’ve heard of and been considering for myself. So, I feel like I may be on the right track. I’m very excited to check out your book recs!

VAMPIRE THE MASQUERADE EARRING! :O

Even though I love being a girl periods don't just cut it for me

I've done a lot of the thigs in this video. Have a lot to say about a lot of it but perhaps best not expounded upon in the comments. One thing I have come to but haven't fully implemented yet is the hunch that most of us do not need to be medicated. I'm becoming a tin-foil hat adjacent person with psychiatric medication although I know it is not actually coming from a delusional place. It is hard to talk about because people are very defensive (rightly so) about our mental illnesses being legitimate. My understanding about ADHD, for example, is that it can be treated/managed without medication just as well or nearly as well as with medication but it is less of a quick fix. The flip side of that is that it is also longer lasting than taking a vyvanse or a ritalin or a concerta, etc. The other thing that I find keystone level helpful is that deconstruction and dismantling white supremacy/colonialism in my head has made it easier to be motivated to heal. I have responsibility to the people around me to unlearn shame, to learn how to be on time despite my ADHD (with whatever solution works whether that be alarms, friends reminding me, etc), to learn how to set boundaries. It is counterrevolutionary/anti-radical/whatever not to do those things - I will become hard to work with, extractive, potentially dangerous if I don't. Good for motivation when I don't want to have a hard conversation or do some sort of exercise that will help or whatever else.

i know i’m just some random who’s been watching your stuff for a while, but i hope it’s not too weird to tell you that i had a dream about you last night. we were just talking at a pool party. when i woke up i realized i hadn’t seen a video from you in a while and wondered how you were doing. so i was surprised to see you post today! thanks for sharing your journey with us, i hope it continues to bring you fulfillment and resilience. 😊

I dont like books on empathy. I dont have it. Either i wasnt born with it or it was traumatized out of me, and every book on empathy refuses to acknowledge people like me can be good people and acts like its a moral failing to be unempathetic. Empathy obsession doesnt help me want to try cognitive empathy. It makes me want to shield myself away more. I still care about people. Just not like most people do. And its not my fault. If it were a choice to be like this then maybe id accept being shamed for it by every corner of society.

really enoyed the view at 4.04😍

hey guys!wjat i dpo is a get a bottle from the shop and when I finished it I cut out a diagonal shape from the bottom, and then I tape tissue around it and works pretty well!

Her using examples about being loud or yelling are not observational from a. NVC consciousness point of view. Apart from that, it's a very helpful video

Omg this is so underrated

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It’s definitely more inclusive, but I still hate the character of Regina George. Just an awful manipulative, Miserable person. I know that’s the intent, but my opinion doesn’t change with being non-binary.

RIP to some little kids that said that they wanted to have periods 💀

Hey, How are you doing now? Are your periods permenantly gone?

Thank you so much for posting this up. This is so comprehensive and covers so much about non violent communication that I feel is missing from some peoples’ toolkits.

For me it helps to think of boundaries as mutually agreed upon rules of a sport (I used to play a lot of sports). Like you can change the rules as you go along and realize something is making the sport not work, but there are established parameters for the game.

I think the metaphor doesn’t quite work, because when a boundary is crossed it’s usually in terms of more intimacy than one is comfortable with-moving _closer_ instead of away. So… maybe you can say your boundaries are like your skin? If someone gets in either, they wound you. (Or, if you are a nerd, your AT Field.)

oh i think you're about to explain what i started thinking about when you first used the words "love map" in trying to find a better description - that the boundary exists around you and the people you love and feel safe with, and you are informing them what would put them outside your circle of closeness. EDIT yes that seems to be about it! I'm glad you found a framing that works for you!

just want to say the location you're filming in is so fascinating and love the use of it at 17:28

OMG this is such a huge lightbulb moment for me! Thank you so much for sharing this. I love the concept of someone breaking your boundaries being them walking out of your house - that also leads (for me at least) to the decision, do I lock the door or do I follow them and have a discussion about what's gone wrong? It changes how enforcing or upholding boundaries looks dramatically. This is huge. Thank you!

Wow released same day! I am about to have one and they said 3-5 days in hospital and all the videos I'm watching says it's agonising. I hope I have the same experience as you!!

I really do like the idea of seeing boundaries from the inside out. Like, the way you're saying it its not like drawing a line in the sand between you and them, and telling them not to cross it. Its drawing a line around the both of you, and them leaving it.

I don't have this specific hangup about boundaries, but I really relate to how the semantics of words and metaphors we use to describe concepts like this really mess with my head, and I have to come up with a new way of understanding. It's like, I end up with the same idea as everyone else, which sometimes makes people look at me like "yeah... that's the same thing..." But they don't get that metaphors are way more literal to me. (Which is funny, because metaphors literally aren't literal, but I think you know what I mean) the metaphor has to FEEL right emotionally.

Here's a quote from Prentis Hemphill 'Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.'

Hey, something happened to the closed captions… Also, what happened to the full video with the alien and everything?

Why are female people supposed to suffer and cry😭😭😭 And men dont get them usually....

Why not save money and use a used water bottle or soda bottle?